Comments on: Is Pathetic the New Black? http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/ Fri, 02 Mar 2012 06:46:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Peties_Pam http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-11776 Peties_Pam Fri, 22 May 2009 18:36:22 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1984#comment-11776 Jane... this was great! you are positively amazing... I am so happy we met on TWitter.... Jane… this was great! you are positively amazing… I am so happy we met on TWitter….

]]> By: loveaphid http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-11119 loveaphid Thu, 19 Mar 2009 21:45:16 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1984#comment-11119 Seriously Jane you are brilliant. I love this. As someone who fights against truly debilitating mental illness and struggles every day to go out into the world, I find people who make it their goal to be miserable a whole lot annoying. Oh, Woe is me, is so over done. Like you said we all need a proverbial gray bathrobe to comfort us once in a while, some of us maybe more than others, but there comes a time to take off the robe, take a shower, throw on some jeans and a t-shirt and get to living. Seriously Jane you are brilliant. I love this. As someone who fights against truly debilitating mental illness and struggles every day to go out into the world, I find people who make it their goal to be miserable a whole lot annoying. Oh, Woe is me, is so over done. Like you said we all need a proverbial gray bathrobe to comfort us once in a while, some of us maybe more than others, but there comes a time to take off the robe, take a shower, throw on some jeans and a t-shirt and get to living.

]]> By: Kate McLaughlin http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-11065 Kate McLaughlin Fri, 13 Mar 2009 00:50:53 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1984#comment-11065 Dear Jane, Balance is a significant word in my lexicon. I must learn not to reflect that on others. I do understand what you're saying. The world is NOT fair. Never has been. Never will be. There's no explaining why many things happen, afflictions occur, people suffer. They just do. But by telling the stories, good and bad, we illuminate the good and cast light into the darkness of the bad. Each is a valuable tale. Dear Jane,
Balance is a significant word in my lexicon. I must learn not to reflect that on others. I do understand what you’re saying. The world is NOT fair. Never has been. Never will be. There’s no explaining why many things happen, afflictions occur, people suffer. They just do.
But by telling the stories, good and bad, we illuminate the good and cast light into the darkness of the bad. Each is a valuable tale.

]]> By: KateC http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-11056 KateC Thu, 12 Mar 2009 15:33:18 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1984#comment-11056 Perhaps in trying to encompass the feelings of others I wasn't clear. My initial comment is that I see no problem with times of cathartic wallowing in the "my life sucks" moments. I just have the belief that these are times that don't need to be expressed to the whole world just as you made clear in your post that the whole world doesn't see you in that particular bathrobe. I went on becasue I had read this comment "As a blogger and ruminator, I sometimes worry about going too far and sharing too many dark moments with my readers" to say that I see bloggers posts differntly becasue at least in the blogs I read I see the process, be it in the one post or over the course of the blog. If the entire blog were of the "my life sucks" variety, I wouldn't keep coming back. I don't think I was trying to negate reality nor asking other people to, my thought was that my experience is that even if ones whole life is a giant bowl of suck there are days that suck less versus days that suck more and that there is motion of some sort. You wouldn't write nor would I read a novel about someone who had no process, no motion....even if it isn't a balance of good things to bad things. I don't believe that the universe is balanced between good and bad either, but I do believe that it is in constant motion. Perhaps in trying to encompass the feelings of others I wasn’t clear. My initial comment is that I see no problem with times of cathartic wallowing in the “my life sucks” moments. I just have the belief that these are times that don’t need to be expressed to the whole world just as you made clear in your post that the whole world doesn’t see you in that particular bathrobe. I went on becasue I had read this comment “As a blogger and ruminator, I sometimes worry about going too far and sharing too many dark moments with my readers” to say that I see bloggers posts differntly becasue at least in the blogs I read I see the process, be it in the one post or over the course of the blog. If the entire blog were of the “my life sucks” variety, I wouldn’t keep coming back.

I don’t think I was trying to negate reality nor asking other people to, my thought was that my experience is that even if ones whole life is a giant bowl of suck there are days that suck less versus days that suck more and that there is motion of some sort. You wouldn’t write nor would I read a novel about someone who had no process, no motion….even if it isn’t a balance of good things to bad things. I don’t believe that the universe is balanced between good and bad either, but I do believe that it is in constant motion.

]]> By: Jane Devin http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-11047 Jane Devin Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:39:38 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1984#comment-11047 Kate, I have an instinctive distaste for anything that seeks to negate reality. Even fantasy stories, for me, have to have a core of reality in order for me to feel them as valid expressions. I don't believe that balance has ever really existed in the larger world, although I'm sure many find it within themselves. We've always lived in a world of disparities and uneven curses and blessings. Both the cursed and the blessed have stories to tell, and the stories don't have to be balanced, in my opinion, to tell a valuable tale...but they should be realistic. A blessed person who talks about what they "deserved" and who thanks an invisible god for their fortune is as blind to me as the cursed person who thinks they deserve no better and that they've been handpicked by some elusive entity called karma to suffer. Ann, I enjoyed your story. :-) Kate, I have an instinctive distaste for anything that seeks to negate reality. Even fantasy stories, for me, have to have a core of reality in order for me to feel them as valid expressions. I don’t believe that balance has ever really existed in the larger world, although I’m sure many find it within themselves. We’ve always lived in a world of disparities and uneven curses and blessings. Both the cursed and the blessed have stories to tell, and the stories don’t have to be balanced, in my opinion, to tell a valuable tale…but they should be realistic. A blessed person who talks about what they “deserved” and who thanks an invisible god for their fortune is as blind to me as the cursed person who thinks they deserve no better and that they’ve been handpicked by some elusive entity called karma to suffer.

Ann, I enjoyed your story. :-)

]]> By: Kate McLaughlin http://janedevin.com/2009/03/09/is-pathetic-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-11046 Kate McLaughlin Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:28:38 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1984#comment-11046 Seems like you want balance, Jane. Based on earlier articles, like "George Rindahl...," you want the Pollyannas and Little-Miss-Sunshines to acknowledge that sometimes it rains; and it sucks to be wet and cold. But you also want the bitchers and moaners to occasionally see the bright side. Balance. Seems like it's always the answer. Seems like you want balance, Jane.
Based on earlier articles, like “George Rindahl…,” you want the Pollyannas and Little-Miss-Sunshines to acknowledge that sometimes it rains; and it sucks to be wet and cold. But you also want the bitchers and moaners to occasionally see the bright side.
Balance. Seems like it’s always the answer.

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