Comments on: Love Should Be Like The 4th of July http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/ Mon, 22 Aug 2011 05:27:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Anne http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/comment-page-1/#comment-10762 Anne Mon, 16 Feb 2009 16:59:23 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1837#comment-10762 It is great to find like-minded women that don't have a fit if their partner doesn't treat V.D. like the end-all, be-all celebration of the relationship. I have never really understood the hype other than the fact that retail businesses hope to make a lot of money on a variety of items that are supposed to make women (and some men) feel that they really are loved. I have always believed that a partner should feel that way every day, not just on one "holiday" each year. My friends and I have gone out for the past several years. I have always been the "single" one, but have never felt like the 3rd wheel as we just have a good time together. It is great to find like-minded women that don’t have a fit if their partner doesn’t treat V.D. like the end-all, be-all celebration of the relationship. I have never really understood the hype other than the fact that retail businesses hope to make a lot of money on a variety of items that are supposed to make women (and some men) feel that they really are loved. I have always believed that a partner should feel that way every day, not just on one “holiday” each year. My friends and I have gone out for the past several years. I have always been the “single” one, but have never felt like the 3rd wheel as we just have a good time together.

]]> By: Noelle http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/comment-page-1/#comment-10734 Noelle Sat, 14 Feb 2009 17:11:59 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1837#comment-10734 That's why I started throwing a "soiree" on Valentines Day about 9 years ago (I blogged about it last night as I was cooking the meal). My friends and I couldn't face another pressure filled chocolate and candle light dinner in a room filled with tables for two. I think the husbands were happier about it than my friends. We have held up the tradition, and have had a great time all these years. No heart shaped cakes or "sweetheart" themes. Just friends getting together on a pressure filled night. That’s why I started throwing a “soiree” on Valentines Day about 9 years ago (I blogged about it last night as I was cooking the meal). My friends and I couldn’t face another pressure filled chocolate and candle light dinner in a room filled with tables for two. I think the husbands were happier about it than my friends. We have held up the tradition, and have had a great time all these years. No heart shaped cakes or “sweetheart” themes. Just friends getting together on a pressure filled night.

]]> By: Julia http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/comment-page-1/#comment-10733 Julia Sat, 14 Feb 2009 17:11:41 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1837#comment-10733 If it makes you feel any better Jane being married on Valentine's Day can be equally sucky. Although my husband is being a true romantic and cleaning the office today which I much prefer over a card, chocolate, flowers or jewelry. Well... maybe not jewelry. ;) If it makes you feel any better Jane being married on Valentine’s Day can be equally sucky. Although my husband is being a true romantic and cleaning the office today which I much prefer over a card, chocolate, flowers or jewelry. Well… maybe not jewelry. ;)

]]> By: LBJ http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/comment-page-1/#comment-10732 LBJ Sat, 14 Feb 2009 15:59:34 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1837#comment-10732 No kidding Chris, I can totally relate! There is pressure to be romantic on this day, so I suppose I should feel fortunate to be single right now since I'm feeling bloated, pre-menstrual, and all I want to do tonight is curl up on the couch with a blanket and an old movie! No kidding Chris, I can totally relate! There is pressure to be romantic on this day, so I suppose I should feel fortunate to be single right now since I’m feeling bloated, pre-menstrual, and all I want to do tonight is curl up on the couch with a blanket and an old movie!

]]> By: Chris http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/comment-page-1/#comment-10731 Chris Sat, 14 Feb 2009 14:58:15 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1837#comment-10731 I agree! The 4th of July is a day that can be enjoyed, and if it comes in the form of reading magazines in bed, while listening to the pops of fireworks in the park across the street, it's okay. There's no expectation and it's not personal. Valentine's Day (Christmas sometimes too) has too much at stake personally. I've been married almost 20 years and the pressure I feel to be "in the mood" on Valentine's Day (our anniversary occasionally), almost always has the opposite affect on me. Love, romance, feeling moved to give gifts, ebbs and flows. If I plan in my little mind a "romantic night" on such-and-such a date, it's almost always a guarantee that the mood will miss me. Valentine's Day turns the volume WAY up on that feeling. For me. I agree! The 4th of July is a day that can be enjoyed, and if it comes in the form of reading magazines in bed, while listening to the pops of fireworks in the park across the street, it’s okay. There’s no expectation and it’s not personal. Valentine’s Day (Christmas sometimes too) has too much at stake personally. I’ve been married almost 20 years and the pressure I feel to be “in the mood” on Valentine’s Day (our anniversary occasionally), almost always has the opposite affect on me. Love, romance, feeling moved to give gifts, ebbs and flows.

If I plan in my little mind a “romantic night” on such-and-such a date, it’s almost always a guarantee that the mood will miss me. Valentine’s Day turns the volume WAY up on that feeling. For me.

]]> By: Tammy http://janedevin.com/2009/02/14/love-should-be-like-the-4th-of-july/comment-page-1/#comment-10729 Tammy Sat, 14 Feb 2009 14:09:31 +0000 http://janedevin.com/?p=1837#comment-10729 Down with Valentine's Day, I agree. Or at least, forget the red foil chocolate hearts, those fake red roses sprayed with perfume, and the crowded restaurant serving pink mashed potatoes and gloppy, gaudy deserts! How about love and romance every day? Flowers on Tuesday because they're beautiful. Chocolate any damn day of the week...because, it's chocolate. And love, love, and love. All the time, every day. Not because Hallmark says so. Down with Valentine’s Day, I agree.
Or at least, forget the red foil chocolate hearts, those fake red roses sprayed with perfume, and the crowded restaurant serving pink mashed potatoes and gloppy, gaudy deserts!

How about love and romance every day? Flowers on Tuesday because they’re beautiful. Chocolate any damn day of the week…because, it’s chocolate.

And love, love, and love.
All the time, every day.

Not because Hallmark says so.

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